1. DESIRED

Make your spouse feel sexually wanted. Flirt with your spouse. Make your spouse feel attractive. Make him hard. Make her wet

2. THOUGHT OF

Randomly do things to your spouse that communicate you are thinking of him/her. Help out with a chore, an errand without being asked. Make tea/coffee when your spouse is working. Randomly send a message just to check up on him/her

3. HEARD

Make your spouse feel that you care about what he/she cares about. Make your spouse feel he/she has a safe space to talk. Listen. Ask questions as someone wanting to know your spouse better

4. BELIEVED IN

Make your spouse feel cheered on, that you have faith in his/her greatness. Say words such as “You can make it”, “I am so proud of you”

5. APPRECIATED

Spending years with your spouse, your spouse will do a lot of good. Highlight those good. Make him/her feel not taken for granted

6. PROTECTED

Make your spouse feel safe, that you can’t raise a hand, insult, threaten him/her and you will not tolerate another person doing the same to your spouse… including your own family

7. RESPECTED

Make your spouse feel highly regarded, that you speak honorably to him/her. Respect opens up the door to a deeper connection

8. SPECIAL

Make your spouse feel like your priority, that they are not in competition with another. Do things that communicate to your spouse how grateful you are to have him/her in your life

9. SEXY

Make your spouse feel good about himself/herself. Praise your spouse’s sexual advances and deeds. Compliment your spouse’s looks and appeal

10. MISSED

Make your spouse know that even though sometimes you have to be a part, you treasure moments spent together. When you are far from each other, occasionally reach out for your spouse to feel missed

11. NEEDED

Make your spouse feel he/she adds value to your life. Ask your spouse for help, let your spouse participate in your activities

12. CONSIDERED

Make your spouse feel his/her opinion and thoughts matter. Even when you know something, ask for your spouse’s views on a matter. Don’t make decisions alone