Dear wife,

Is your husband safe to tell you where you go wrong? Or will you be quick to dismiss him as if women cannot be at fault?

Is your husband safe to disclose to you the struggles he goes through? Or will you use that information against him?

Is your husband safe to come home to you? Or are you harsh towards him the moment he enters the home? Does he feel at home at home?

Is your husband safe to tell you the skeletons in his past? Or will you remain stuck at seeing him as the man he used to be, not the man he is becoming?

Is your husband safe to tell you his financial mistakes? Or will you turn against him and call him a failure?

Is your husband safe to tell you the shortfalls of his parents, the drama of his siblings, the mess of his grandparents and the difficulties of his upbringing? Or will you start to despise your in-laws?

Is your husband safe to tell you he is struggling to pray? Or will you brand him as a joker who is not serious with God?

Is your husband safe to tell you he is not able to have sex tonight perhaps due to stress? Or will you conclude that he is cheating?

Is your husband safe to tell you he can’t afford the things you want? Or will you start saying he doesn’t love you because you didn’t get your way?

Is your husband safe to open up to you difficult information? Or will you overreact making him regret why he told you?

Is your husband safe when you two have a disagreement? Or will you throw insults and things at him and justify your actions because you are mad and you are a woman?

Is your husband safe to tell you he feels lost? Or will you switch on him and tell him he needs to man up?

Is your husband safe to tell you he is concerned about the friends you hang around with? Or will you quickly mock him as insecure without listening to his reasons?

Is your husband safe to tell you he had a bad day? Or will you expect him to always be at his best?

Can he talk to you beyond bills and responsibilities? Or have you shown him that you can’t handle some tough conversations? Have you shown him that he has to watch his back with you? Have you shown him that for him to be at peace, he needs to edit what he tells you and he tells you only the good things? Have you made him feel judged to the point that he has put a wall around himself? Have you blown things out of proportion to the point he keeps things to himself even if he is crumbling inside?

May your husband not only be there for you, but may he also allow you be there for him because you have showed him… in your hands, he is safe

DE EDIFIER