1. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some men are getting married with a lowly and negative view of women and some women marrying with a repulsive and suspicious view of men. Work on your view of the opposite gender

2. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some couples are living together without having a joint vision and values. Work on the foundation of your marriage

3. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some people are marrying for the wrong motives, when the motive is wrong, everything crumbles. Ask yourself and your spouse, “Why did you get married?”

4. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some people are too selfish in marriage to consider the other person. Love calls you to be considerate of the other.

5. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some people married and became parents without sufficient preparation. What you’re not prepared for will overwhelm you. Study, learn, buy books, read articles, go for counselling to equip you with tools in how to be a better parent and spouse. Don’t pretend to be a “Know it all” yet your family is not getting your best.

6. Marriage is not a scam. It is that some people would rather hold on to their pride than admit wrong and say sorry. Your marriage needs humility.

7. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some people are getting married without healing from the pain of their childhood. The bullying, rejection, pain, trauma you experienced as a child can destroy your marriage if you don’t heal.

8. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some people used to quit easily in their dating relationships and now they don’t know how to quit in marriage because they are tied by a marriage certificate, public pressure and children. Stop this habit of being a quitter, marriage will require effort. This is not dating, this is marriage.

9. Marriage is not a scam. It is just some are sadly listening to the wrong advice of bitter friends and hurting social media souls that will make you think marriage is the worst thing on earth. Check who you listen to and what you consume.

10. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that some are putting the right effort in affairs and not in their marriage; making affairs look exciting and marriage boring. Put that investment and energy in your marriage, not outside.

11. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that most people did not receive a good example from their parent’s marriage. Your parents should not determine the quality of family you have. You two determine how this love will go.

12. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that many adults know what to do to make things right, but because of anger, laziness or self centeredness they refuse to put it into action. Why are you being stubborn?

13. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that people are itching to hold on to bad news. Negative news about marriage spreads faster than good news. Don’t believe the lie that every couple is in misery. There are many thriving couples out there

14. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that most people would rather gossip and slander a couple going through an issue than pray and support them. Each couple has challenges and with the right mindset, support and actions; they will make it, becoming better than they were before the challenge

15. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that many people are inconsistent in their effort in marriage. They give their spouse mixed signals. Maturity calls for consistency. Make up your mind, are you two making this marriage work or not?

16. Marriage is not a scam. It is just that most people give up too easily. They expect a good marriage instantly, you have keep at it over time