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FOUNTAIN OF MY SOUL By Pst. Victor Okereke (De Edifier)



“A fountain of joy alive in you”: How Music Tunes the Soul

I recorded this collection during the month of October 2018. Having a clear calendar for the month, I felt the Lord telling me that there was a reason I had no ministry obligations for the entire month. As I asked the Lord ‘why?’ I felt led to record this project, coupling some of my favorite songs. Worship with me and find rest for your soul as you walk intimately with Jesus through these song. I AM LIFE-STREAM

A fountain that flows from above;
I have passed from the waters of strife
And come to the Elim of love;
I have drunk of the heavenly well,
In the depths of my being it springs.
No mortal can measure or tell
The gladness the Comforter brings.

Fountain of my soul

Oh, come to the Fountain of Life,
The fountain that never runs dry;
Oh, drink of the boundless supply,
For Christ is the Fountain of Life.

I have come to the Fountain of Blood
That for guilt and uncleanness doth flow;
I have washed in its sin-cleansing flood
And my garments are whiter than snow.
I count not my righteousness mine—
’Tis Jesus that lives in my soul.
I partake of His nature divine,
And in Him I am perfectly whole.

I have come to the Fountain of Health,
A boundless and endless supply;
’Tis a secret man’s wisdom or wealth
Can never discover or buy.
But the secret my Lord hath revealed
In the fountain that flows from His side,
In the stripes by whose pain we are healed,
In Himself as He comes to abide.

I have come to the Fountain of Joy;
His joy is the strength of my heart.
My delight is unmixed with alloy,
My sunshine can never depart.

From my spirit within flows a fountain of life—
The Triune God flowing in me;
God the Father’s the source, Christ the Son is the course,
And the Spirit imparts life to me.

And my soul-life at last I lay down;
O Lord, deepen the pure flow of life;
At Your coming may life be my crown.

In the fresh, tender grass Jesus makes me lie down;
He leads me by waters of rest;
No more struggle and strain; all self-effort is vain;
In the flow I am perfectly blessed.

Jesus called me one day to the Holiest Place,
To live in His presence divine;
Hallelujah, I’ve heard an encouraging word:
“Abide—you’re a branch in the vine.”

Who can satisfy my soul, like You
Who on earth can comfort me and love me like You do
Who could ever be more faithful and true
I will trust in You, I will trust in You, my God

Who can satisfy my soul, like You
Who on earth can comfort me and love me like You do
Who could ever be more faithful and true
I will trust in You, I will trust in You, my God

There is, who is a King
(There is a fountain, who is a King)
Victorious warrior
(Victorious warrior and Lord of everything)
My rock, my very own
(My rock, my shelter, my very own)
Blessed Redeemer, who reigns upon the throne, oh yes

There is a fountain, who is a King
(Who is a King)
Victorious warrior and Lord of everything
(Victorious warrior)
My rock, my shelter, my very own
(My rock, yes He is, He is, my very own)
Blessed Redeemer, who reigns upon the throne
(Blessed Redeemer, who reigns)

Who could ever be more faithful and true
I will trust in You, I will trust in You, I will trust in You, my God

I’ve got peace like a river,
I’ve got peace like a river,
I’ve got peace like a river in my soul.
I’ve got peace like a river,
I’ve got peace like a river,
I’ve got peace like a river in my soul.

I’ve got joy like a fountain,
I’ve got joy like a fountain,
I’ve got joy like a fountain in my soul.
I’ve got joy like a fountain,
I’ve got joy like a fountain,
I’ve got joy like a fountain in my soul.

I’ve got love like an ocean,
I’ve got love like an ocean,
I’ve got love like an ocean in my soul.
I’ve got love like an ocean,
I’ve got love like an ocean,
I’ve got love like an ocean in my soul.



When people want to salvage their relationship/marriage, often they don’t know where to begin, it all seems an uphill task, the best thing is to look at the whole journey. It will be effective if both parties see it step by step; that way it is done in unity, it is simple and they see progress in the process. Below is a step to step guide to follow as a roadmap towards healing your relationship/marriage.

1. Knowing and affirming that you love each other hence the reason for wanting to make it work

2. Accepting that a relationship/marriage is a human union and institution and hence mistakes are inevitable. Humans are not perfect, but they can be better

3. Agree that a damaged relationship/marriage can be fixed

4. Agreeing that love is an important union with implications on you two and your children

5. Recalling why you loved each other in the first place, why you got married, recalling your vows, the initial script before things changed

6. Highlighting how much you both have invested in this relationship/marriage, the years, the children

7. Accepting that things changed

8. Being honest about why and when things changed

9. Bringing to light your role and his/her role in making things changed without judging or attacking each other

10. Each accepting their role

11. Exposing what is wrong in your relationship/marriage, what lacks

12. Listing the dangers or enemies of your relationship/marriage. To go to war, you need to know your enemy

13. Analyzing the implications of your relationship/marriage breaking (effect on children, losses, pain)

14. Painting a picture of what benefits will arise if the relationship/marriage works, look ahead, the big picture

15. Forgive each other for mistakes and wrongs done

16. Agreeing that one partner alone cannot save the relationship/marriage

17. Accepting it will not be easy at first but the benefits are good

18. Mentioning specific actions and ways to follow towards healing the relationship/marriage (work on communication, pray more, go out on dates, have family dinners, improve communication, work on financial management, agree on phone behaviours, no secrets, no more flirting with others, working on a healthy sexlife)

19. Commit to those actions and ways

20. Close the chapter of the past, past sins, no bringing them up

21. Pray together, hug, kiss, make up

22. Go out on a date or vacation, enjoy each other in a new environment, re-learn each other

23. Involve the kids, have family outings, talk to the kids together, go as a couple to the kids events, drive in the same car

24. Celebrate your Anniversary or Back to Love day

25. Keep trying no matter how difficult, together. Not a solo act but team effort

26. Witness the power of love and forgiveness



1. Forgiving before an apology is made

2. Hugging tightly when no words can be said

3. Sharing a meal because food brings people together

4. Kissing more than the lips; kiss the forehead, shoulders, fingers and cheek

5. Saying “I love you” in the middle of an argument

6. Sending an early morning message to greet your loved one at the start of the day

7. Calling your loved one on phone in the middle of the day just to make him/ her smile

8. Holding each other close as you look in the mirror and see “The world’s loveliest couple”

9. Planning a surprise to brighten up your loved one’s day

10. Taking photos of you two to add to your biography

11. Acting silly; dance, laugh, tease each other

12. Listening when one of you is talking

13. Praying even in the good times, learning to give thanks

14. Falling asleep in the middle of a late night conversation then wake up to continue it

15. Asking for help from your loved one even when you can do it on your own

16. Analyzing yourself to see any wrongdoing in you before accusing your loved one

17. Bumping on each other as you two walk because you’re so cozy together

18. Laughing with each other not at each other

19. Wiping her tears, allaying his fears

20. Having fun turning down other suitors because you’re faithful to your one and only true love



1. You do not have to have sex each night. Intimacy is more than love making. Sex is not the only way to gauge if things are well in your marriage. Sometimes intimacy is about sleeping body to body, cuddling, having heart felt conversations

2. You don’t have to argue over every little disagreement. Sometimes you have to move on from the petty differences you have with your spouse and focus on more important things

3. You don’t have to keep a score of who puts in the most money or who does more in the marriage. You both have different capacity. As long as you both give what you can and as you can and appreciate each other, you will be united

4. You don’t have to be concerned whether people approve of your spouse, the race of your spouse, the tribe of your spouse, the status of your spouse or the age of your spouse. As long as you in your right mind genuinely love your spouse, you know your spouse is good for you and God is pleased with your choice, don’t mind what people say

5. You don’t have to have a child/children for your marriage to be complete. Biological children are a gift from God, not a right in every marriage. Don’t let people make you feel your marriage is not blessed because you have no child yet or don’t plan on having children

6. You don’t have to respond to every attack or insult directed at your marriage. The best way to lower the power and venom of your enemies is to pay them no attention

7. You don’t have to tell your close friends everything about your marriage and spouse. Some things are best kept special and confidential, just between you and your spouse

8. You don’t have to copy other marriages and have the material things other couples have. Marriage is not a race competing against other couples. Grow at your own pace, define your marriage as a unique couple

9. You don’t have to complicate marriage because people told you marriage is hard work. Love is simple, people complicate it with selfishness, unwillingness to learn and pride

10. You don’t have to drown your marriage into gender politics because you feel some things are not for your gender to do. Both husband and wife want love, a helping hand, respect and care. Stop being difficult. Both of you have equal stake in this marriage



1. Love will make you see your areas of strength as you will have someone beside you noticing your greatness

2. Love will make you see your weaknesses as you will have someone who means well who calls you out when you can do better

3. Love will make you see God as you love each other God’s way for God is love

4. Love will make you see more years in life because love is good for your health

5. Love will make you feel valuable and a complete person because you have someone who sees more than just your physical looks

6. Love will make you see your dreams come true as you will have someone who believes in you walking besides you and supporting you

7. Love will make your children see a bright and wholesome future as they grow in an environment of love

8. Love will make you see growth as two are better than one

9. Love will make you see a clearer vision because it will give you security

10. Love will make you see a better side of you because you will realize life is not just about you

Love is not blind, love reveals and unveils a lot of good. Loving blindly where you walk without understanding, discernment and joint direction is what is dangerous



I thought they said pregnant women starts nagging at the 5th month or so but I wonder why my wife’s own started on the very first day she came home with the pregnancy result which shows she’s just two weeks pregnant 🤰, that day she refused to cook and I asked her why and she said she can’t cook because she’s pregnant, I found it funny and laughed “Two weeks pregnant?? And you can’t cook? Hahaha” she started crying saying I was laughing at her condition, I tried to apologise but she over reacted that day, she went as far as calling my mother on phone telling her I am not showing concern about her pregnancy, my mom called me and warn me never to neglect her and urge me to spend more time with her until she delivers.

Ok… That was how I turned into my wife’s house help, although I can’t cook but I learnt it by force.. I can now cook, I washed and she still nags and complains, I turned into a decorator, I decorate the room for her like this now, she loves it, in the next five minutes she hates it and I have to decorate it with another style, she can wake me up at midnight to make her tea, Sometimes A.C will be on but she’ll prefer me fanning her with hand fan, chei! Me Chinaza, I don see things! I asked my married friends “Is this how your wives behave when the gets pregnant?” They laughed and never gave me an answer.

Ok now she’s on her seventh month and I was doing all I could to make sure she’s happy and never complain.

We spent the day all happy ,took a walk, eat together and I spent the entire day cracking jokes for her, she was very happy that she forgot to nag nor complain, then we went to bed….

I get hot water ready just incase she requests for tea at midnight, I have all kinds of fruit and foods stored in the fridge just incase she ask for any.

After that.. I lay down beside her.

“Pheew” I exhaled, If I could keep everyday like this she won’t be nagging anymore.

I was very happy because I finally find a way to keep her happy and entertained and most of all save myself from her nags. Now everything is perfect. I slept off beside her happily.

At around 2:00 am she wakes me up :

ME: Do you want to drink tea?

SHE : No

ME: Fruits?

SHE : No

ME: Oh… Food, which one will I bring?

SHE: I’m not hungry I don’t want any food.

Wooow! I couldn’t believe my ears, she doesn’t want to eat anything? then let me continue my peaceful sleep. What a lovely day and a lovely night.

Not long after, she wakes me again and asked

SHE : Honey

ME: yes

SHE : Do you know that petrol station called Bovas along Onward road?

ME : yes, what happened to it?

SHE: Take me there I need to smell their fuel.”

ME :  Jesus !!! 😳😲🙆🙆🙄 😭🤦🏾‍♂️🤰



1. Men don’t read minds. If you want him to know you and what’s on your mind, tell him

2. A man loves it when his woman brags about him

3. A man hates it when things he shares with his woman are told to her girlfriends as juicy gossip

4. The number one thing a man finds sexy is her heart, the man serious about love might look at a woman with a gorgeous body but he only chases after and keeps the one with a good heart

5. Men don’t think about sex all the time. It means alot to him to have a woman he can talk to deep and intelligent stuff. His need for sexual stimulation is high and scattered, but his need for mental stimulation is constant

6. The easiest way to keep him from spending too much time with his friends at the expense of you, is to make sure being with you is more fun, more intelligently stimulating, more stress-free than being with his friends

7. Every good man loves his woman more than his friends, but if he spends more time with his friends it’s to escape the stress he gets when with her

8. The more you nag, the more he will avoid you

9. Men want to express their feelings, but will only do so when they feel safe. How much he lets you be there for him depends on how much he thinks you can handle his issues

10. Don’t fight his favourite past time, embrace it. If he loves football, watch matches with him or buy him a jersey. If he loves to swim, swim with him or just check him out as you chill by the pool. If he loves to dance, dance with him even if you are not a pro. The more you do things with him, the more he will value your company, the more he will in return learn to like or accommodate what you like

11. No matter what happens in your marriage, make sure your sex-life doesn’t suffer. Don’t ever use sex as a weapon to attack him or punish him

12. If he truly loves you, he will still find you sexy whether you gain or lose weight. The thing is always know how to dress and look sexy no matter your size; men can pick up a woman’s confidence

13. When you give birth, don’t focus too much on being a great mother that you forget to remain a great wife

14. Men also love to be listened to. Be his confidant. Find out how he is, how his day has been. He has feelings too. Let it not always be about you

15. Don’t jump into conclusions quickly when you hear rumors about him or think he is cheating or fooling around. Confront him gently with love, it will make him respect you more. He should never feel you are quick to leave his team, be rational

16. Know that good men are constantly being bashed by society because of what the bad ones have done and are doing. Look at him as an individual, celebrate him

17. The more you appreciate his efforts, the more he will do for you

18. Don’t let your hurry to get married put him off. Don’t rush love

19. A man and a woman may not grow ready at the same pace. Don’t force a marriage proposal out of him, if he loves you and is serious, be sure he is planning the proposal. The more comfortable you make him, the easier you make it for him; the more you rush him, the more he starts to feel used

20. A man will always be publicly proud of the woman he admires, be admirable

21. The number one cause for a man to feel less important and threatened in a woman’s life is when he has little money or he can’t adequately provide. This is one of most crucial moments when he needs his woman to affirm him that she still loves him and the two will find a way

22. It’s not that men are intimidated by women with power and success it’s just that they detest the pride of some of these women with power and success. You wouldn’t want to be with a proud man so full of himself just because he has lots of money and success; neither do the men want to be with such a woman

23. Never praise another man yet belittle your man. A man will not hesitate to walk away from a woman who sees him as nothing

24. When an issue has been resolved between you and your man, move past it. It is retrogressive to dig up resolved fights to prove how right you are and how wrong he is

25. Patience with a man will take you far. Many women miss out on the growth with a man because they want perfect right now

26. Submitting to a man doesn’t mean you are his slave, it just means giving him the authority to build with you, to nourish you, to look out for you and be concerned about your well being



1. Women fall in love through a man’s words, they stay in love because of his actions

2. They find it a turn off when a strange man uses intimate names like “Dear”, “Sweetheart”, “Love” on them. He might think saying so impresses her, but to her she finds it cheap, that he uses those intimate names on any random lady

3. Before you tell her “I love you”, be sure you know the meaning, depth, weight and responsibility of those words

4. She loves to be slowly unveiled, don’t push or rush her

5. Even though her heart believes in love, she needs convincing as to why she should love. It is up to you to call her heart out from hiding

6. Awaken love in her only if you are serious

7. Honesty is key, tell her the truth no matter how painful or difficult it is to bear, she will love and trust you more for it

8. Women think of sex too, but it is a side of her preserved for her special man

9. Women love attention, the moment she notices you don’t give her attention, she reads that as things falling apart between you two

10. The best gift you can give a woman is your time. You can buy expensive gifts but if you rob her you, the expensive gifts mean little to her. Her indicator of love is your time

11. Every woman wishes her man would confide in her but often women find men to be guarded and she feels helpless on how to get to him. Share with her your troubles, fears and hopes; she wants you to need her

12. There is a difference between love and being in love. Loving you is her personal choice, being in love with you is dependent on how good you treat her and excite her

13. When you keep secrets you make her insecure. The easiest way to make her feel safe and secure is by empowering her with information. Let her know your friends, your schedule for the day, alert her when you will be busy and not able to talk or meet and she will understand

14. It is one thing to say you love her, it is another thing to make her feel loved. Too many men claim to love their women but their women don’t feel loved. As the saying goes “Justice must not only be done, justice must be seen to be done”, in the same way, do things that make her feel loved

15. It is your duty to make her feel sexy by how you desire her. She feels sexy when you are hungry for her, when you look at her and how you talk to her. If she doesn’t feel sexy, you have failed

16. Women make love with their heart, treat her heart well and your marriage will have an exciting sexlife. She is eager to drive you crazy. Treat her well outside the bedroom and in the bedroom she’ll be on fire

17. It will hurt her if she receives more compliments, admiration and respect from other men than she does from you

18. Outside the house, she will dress in a sexy and beautiful way, not because she wants the attention of other men but because you make her feel sexy and beautiful

19. An insecure man is a turn off. She is with you and no one else. Relax; other men want her from a distance but you have her upclose and personal for life

20. A faithful and confident man is very attractive

21. Not every woman is the same. Know your woman, don’t think she is like your ex, a celebrity, the stuff you read in magazines and blogs, or what you see in movies

22. Sometimes all a woman needs is you to listen. She will open up to you, not because she wants you to give her direction and advise but so that she can vent. You don’t always have to have answers for everything, just listen

23. If you break up with her tell her why. Women love closure, don’t just disappear

24. A woman loves with her all, and before her relationship/marriage to the man she loves ends, she will give her all. Fight for your love with her, she can’t salvage the love alone

25. Many times she has been unappreciated and suppressed. As a man, do the opposite, appreciate her efforts, support her and build her

26. Don’t change for the worse from the good man she fell in love with. Consistency is very important to her

27. Just a simple and short phonecall from her man to check up on her or tell her he loves her makes her smile all day. She never gets tired of hearing “I love you” from the man she loves

28. Women are generally calm, loving and peaceful; they get defensive, combative and bitter when pushed to the wall and betrayed. Don’t cause her to be defensive, combative and bitter

29. If perhaps her ex taught her pain, it is your role to make her unlearn old lessons and teach her love

30. Eye contact and physical touch makes her feel special. Don’t rob her these

31. Love her in public the same way you love her in private

32. Being loved by a woman is a blessing, she will come into a man’s life and bring increase, favour, beauty and life transformation; only if you treat her right



1. A stage is for performance; an altar is for worship.

2. A stage is for competition; an altar is for completion.

3. A stage is for personal applause; an altar is for God’s glory.

4. A stage is for wooing the frantic crowd; an altar is for serenading the King of kings.

5. A stage is for dishing popular sentiment; an altar is for delivering heaven’s edicts.

6. A stage is for selfish ambition; an altar is for selfless sacrifice.

7. A stage is owned and manned by man; an altar is owned and supervised by a particular deity to whom it is erected and dedicated. Our Church altar is owned and manned by Jesus so that the gates of hell will not overcome.

8. A stage is where everything must be perfect; an altar is where the imperfect are perfected.

9. A stage is where man ascends; an altar is where God descends.

10. A stage pushes professionalism; an altar stresses spirituality.

11. A stage is all about how to project the right image; an altar is concerned about how to mold character.

12. A stage is for fireworks display of human excellence, skill, and ingenuity; an altar is for the release of the divine purging fire of His holy presence.

13. A stage is where stars gloat over the camera’s glare; an altar is where sons lie prostrate, struck by heaven’s glory.

14. A stage is where a brilliant blaze of firecrackers illuminate the performer; an altar is where a bolt of heaven’s fire disfigures the worshipper.

15. A stage is where living beings are showcased; an altar is where dead beings are offered.

16. A stage is where artists pull out all the tricks of the trade to dazzle the crowd; an altar is where servants stay true to their call so as to let the congregants draw closer to Jesus.

17. A stage is where superstars hog the limelight; an altar is where everything pales into insignificance in light of the stunning Bright Morning Star.

I pray our churches would have ALTARS and not STAGES!!



She was woken up by a warm touch on her nipple.

Her husband was awake, stroking her nipple. He had pulled down the blanket to reveal her chest.

“Good morning my Queen” he greeted her.

“Good morning my King” she said stretching her body, her breasts got lifted to his face.

He looked on, he loves how her chest lifts up as she stretches.

“I’ve been thinking about how a great mother you are” he said.

“Hmmm” she responded, stroking his face.

He kissed her forehead.

“Thank you for your brilliant mind. For all the advise you give to our children. You are full of wisdom” he told her.

He kissed her lips.

“Thank you for all the prayers you make. The many times you speak life to our children and shape their destiny” he told her.

He kissed both her breasts.

“Thank you for breastfeeding our children. Thank you for nursing them to growth” he told her.

He kissed both her arms, all the way down to her fingers.

“Thank you for your loving touch, your strength, your hard work, your toil, your cooking, all the chores you have done over the years” he told her.

He pulled the blanket further down, kissed her stretch marks.

“Thank you for bearing the marks of womanhood and motherhood. I respect you” he told her.

He kissed her stomach.

“Thank you for giving our children a home, for your womb, for carrying delicate life inside you” he told her.

He kissed her vagina.

“My oh my, so sweet. Thank you for giving me pleasure, for allowing me to go inside you to sire our children. Thank you for the pain you endured during child birth” he told her.

He kissed her thighs, all the way down her legs to her feet.

“Thank you for carrying the weight of motherhood for nine months and after nine months without complaining. I celebrate you. Our children have an amazing mother” he told her.

She raised herself up and looked at him face to face.

She kissed him and said, “Our children have turned out great because of both you and I. It has been a joint effort from both of us. If I am a great mother, it’s because you are a great husband to me. You have made sure I have peace, I am cared for and I am loved up and that is reflected to the children. When a wife is stressed by her husband and feels disrespected at home, she will struggle with motherhood”

She held him close then reclined with him on the bed for a cuddle.

Her skin felt his skin as she said, “Thank you for bringing out the best in me. Parenthood is so fulfilling with a loving spouse. Thank you for doing parenthood with me”



1. If you haven’t healed from the pain your ex caused you, you might punish and judge your spouse for the sins of your ex

2. If you still have emotional feelings for your ex, you will struggle to fully give yourself to your spouse

3. If you are co-parenting with your ex but you two engage in intimate conversations beyond parenting, you will bring a rift between you and your spouse

4. If you want your spouse to love you or treat you like your ex did, you will not be loved in the best way your spouse can

5. If you miss how your ex had sex with you, you will compare your spouse’s performance in bed with that of your ex

6. If you and your ex are still business partners and there is no transparency, you will make your spouse uncomfortable

7. If you still defend why you should still talk to your ex despite it making your spouse uncomfortable, you will make your spouse very insecure

8. If you talk a lot about your ex with your spouse and praising your ex, your spouse will feel like a fool

9. If you name your child after your ex to keep the memory, your spouse will feel disrespected and overthrown

10. If you keep calling your ex by special names and deleting chats between you and your ex, you will break trust in your marriage

Let your ex remain your ex. Hold your spouse’s hand, move forward. Don’t let your past ruin your future