1. QUALITY TIME

Your presence is needed. Provision is also in providing time

2. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

Show your child no judgment, no rejection or that he/she has to do certain things to earn your love. Don’t compare your child with others

3. SPACE TO GROW

Allow your child to grow into the phases of life. Don’t expect your child to reason like you yet you have more experience. Don’t rob your child his/her childhood or teenagehood. Let your child curve his/her own identity

4. A STABLE HOME

Nothing stresses a child more than a home where mom and dad are in turmoil; or where a single parent is erratic and abusive. Give your child a safe haven

5. UNITY

Parent together as a couple. Show your child teamwork

6. DISPLAY OF SUPPORT

Deliberately do things to show support such as cheering on, giving of success cards, bragging about your child in public, being present in landmark moments and affirming your child

7. A VISION

Guide your child into having a vision. A vision is your child’s why. Why go to school, why work hard, why pursue goals? Don’t just tell your child what to do, help him/her get their personal why

8. ENCOURAGEMENT

Be your child’s biggest cheerleader. When he/she falls, help the child up. Be your child’s inspiration

9. DISCERNMENT

Cultivate a value system in your child so that he/she can choose what is right even in moments you are not around

10. DISCIPLINE

Teach your child self-control, how to stay the course. Self-control is a muscle, the more your child practice it, the better your child becomes at it

11. A GOOD EDUCATION

Take your child to the best schools you can afford, if you are able to get a sponsorship, do it. Buy books and share content that builds, if you give your child a digital device, direct your child to sites that lead to growth. Make learning fun. Expose your child to different ideas through travel, push boundaries

12. PRODUCTIVE TRADITION

Every family has its own traditions, make sure you only practice what is good for the family and the child. Not every aspect of man-made culture should be transferred to the next generation

13. PATIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING

Don’t give up on your child, be aware that nurturing takes time. Don’t expect too much too soon. Avoid driving your child into depression to impress you

14. A LISTENING EAR

You should be the first person your child runs to. Be easy to talk to. Be approachable. Far too many children are suffering in silence yet with parents

15. WISDOM

Share with your children life lessons you have picked along the way. Your children shouldn’t struggle the way you did or make the mistakes you did

16. FOND MEMORIES

Family is about shared experiences, give your child good ones; not trauma

17. A HOLISTIC FOUNDATION

Show your child life is more than good grades. Teach your child how to handle and create wealth, how to socialize, how to be emotionally intelligent, how to solve problems, how to grow close to God, how to take care of his/her body. Raise him/her whole

18. A GOOD COMMUNITY

Surround your child with the right type of people; this means choosing friends who are pro-family, friends who are good role models, friends who can mentor and be a good connection for your child

19. INHERITANCE

Give your child a headstart in life, store up value to hand over to your child

20. A GOOD NAME

Live honorably so that your child will be proud to call him/herself yours