1. Understanding your spouse is when you ask your spouse questions with a caring tone; judging your spouse is when you ask questions with an interrogative, suspicious tone

2. Understanding your spouse is when you use the information your spouse shares to better love him/her; judging is when you use the information to attack your spouse

3. Understanding your spouse is when you make your spouse feel safe and covered; judging is when you make your spouse feel edgy

4. Understanding your spouse is when your spouse tells you intimate details about his/her family and you use that information to love and relate better with your in laws; judging your spouse is when you look at your spouse and his/her family differently because of their background

5. Understanding your spouse is when your spouse can tell you areas in life he/she is struggling with and you help; judging your spouse is when you mock and negatively change how you treat your spouse because of his/her struggles

6. Understanding your spouse is when you pray for your spouse when he/she is spiritually weak; judging your spouse is making your spouse feel like a mini-devil just because he/she doesn’t pray like you do

7. Understanding your spouse is seeking to hear your spouse out before jumping into conclusions; judging your spouse is forming an opinion before you have all the facts

8. Understanding your spouse is preserving the secrets your spouse shares in confidence; judging your spouse is exposing your spouse to your friends and family

Marriage needs more understanding and less judging