1. VISION

Vision gives one a reason to stay committed. When you have a vision of the kind of marriage you want to have and the kind of spouse you are working to become, you stay true even when it gets tough

2. FEAR

When you value what you have with your spouse and all you two have built and invested in all these years, you will fear doing something that might destroy it

3. LOVE

When you love your spouse, you will be careful not to do an anything to hurt your spouse, but also, your greatest desire will be to enjoy special moments with no other but your spouse

4. HUMILITY

Humility will remind you not to be too confident in yourself that you play with temptation. Humility will also allow you to be receptive to warnings when your spouse cautions you about someone you are getting close to

5. FREQUENT WARM COMMUNICATION

When you both take time to have silly, deep, serious, difficult and naughty conversations with each other, be it face to face, online, on phone calls or video calls even when you are in a long distance marriage; it will make faithulness easier to practice. The danger is when you get used to communicating frequently with another. Frequent communication keeps you both connected. Emotional faithfulness leads to sexual faithfulness

6. VALUES

Your values determine your lifestyle and this determines what you give time to, who you give time to, the environments you take yourself to and what consumes your thoughts. If you don’t have nurtured values as an individual, you will easily fall

7. RIGHT COMPANY

When you surround yourself with friends who encourage and celebrate your faithfulness and who are also faithful to their spouses, you will challenge each other to focus on your marriage. Check your circle, are you surrounded by cheats?

8. A HEALTHY CONSCIENCE

Don’t numb your conscience, your conscience is what flags you when you are doing wrong. It is your link to God to remind you of your actions and consequences. If you numb your conscience, you will do wrong with no remorse

9. GOOD TREATMENT AT HOME

When you both treat each other well at home, it is so easy to be faithful. You are happy at home, why mess it? When the home is full of fights, arguments, coldness and drama; it gives temptations power

10. TRANSPARENCY

Telling your spouse who you are with and where you are without being asked will make you accountable and prevent you from slipping. Affairs thrive in secrecy

11. OBJECTIVITY

When you start to see yourself enjoying another person’s company not your spouse and be rational about it, you will realize it is not worth it. So you will have a

wonderful time

with this new person, and then what? Your future is still with your spouse, and that temporary good time is not worth risking it all for

12. SOBERNESS

Alcohol tends to make many married people misbehave, sometimes to the point they don’t remember their bad behaviour. When you remain sober you will make better judgements

13. PURITY OF MIND

When you are mindful of what you feed your mind, you will guard your ways. Sex starts in the mind

14. BOUNDARIES

When you make it clear to colleagues, friends and even online contacts that you have boundaries because you respect your marriage, others will respect your marriage too

15. SELF-CONTROL

When you have the strength to stop yourself when you notice you are getting too attached to another person or getting turned on by them; you will take yourself out of danger

16. GREAT SEX AT HOME

When you are being made love to well at home, why go anywhere else? A sexually satisfied spouse tends to remain faithful