1. To enjoy sleep. Sleep is a struggle when you are not in good terms with your spouse

2. To prevent your spouse or yourself from being tempted into an affair. Most affairs start in moments of offense, when you are mad at your spouse or your spouse is mad at you and an outsider gives you a shoulder to lean on OR gives your spouse a shoulder to lean on

3. To prevent a small issue from growing into bigger issues or complications. Any unresolved matters morphs into huge threats that will be harder to solve

4. To show your spouse that you value what you two have. How much you value your marriage will be seen in how quick you solve matters

5. For the sake of peace at home. The home is the one place you should come to find peace. The biggest impediment to peace at home is unresolved issues

6. For the sake of the children. You cannot parent children in a healthy way if you two are at war

7. To prevent you two from drifting apart. Each day that goes with you two not talking to each well you two drift apart

8. To train your reconciliation muscle. Reconciliation is a practice you constantly need to teach yourselves if you want to have a strong marriage

9. To focus on more important things such as investing together, raising children well, touching lives and fulfilling purpose. You can’t do all these in an environment of offense

10. To prevent misinterpretations and assumptions. When you two are not in good talking terms, you read too much into each other’s words and actions, assuming the worst, thus giving birth to new issues

11. To prevent yourselves from resenting each other. As long as you two don’t reconcile, you are giving room to resentment. Soon, you will both start to despise each other and offense will lead to more offense

12. To protect your intimacy. Your emotional, physical and sexual intimacy will be destroyed if you two remain mad at each other. Offense brings loneliness, sexual frustration, alcoholism and porn addiction. Many married are looking for escapes because their marriage has issues. Sometimes your spouse will not want to make love to you, not because he/she is having an affair but because of offense

13. So that you two can fulfil the vision of your marriage. You will not walk in agreement if you don’t see eye to eye. Don’t destroy everything you two have built and were meant to build

14. So that you two don’t end up divorcing due to irreconcilable differences