1. YOU ARE CHEATING

If your spouse knows or suspects you are cheating, he/she will struggle to be aroused by you

2. YOU ARE PAINFUL

If you are too rough, you pump your penis too forcefully, you pinch your spouse’s nipples too aggressively, you inflict pain on your husband’s balls; your spouse will not enjoy you

3. YOU ARE DIRTY

If your finger nails are dirty and you want to do fingering or hand jobs, if you keep repeating your inner wear, if you come of us unkempt and rarely take showers; your spouse will be turned off

4. YOU CAUSE HEARTBREAKS

If you mistreat your spouse and offend your spouse but have no thoughtfulness to apologize; your spouse will find it hard to find you sexually attractive

5. YOUR MOUTH IS DISRESPECTFUL

If you speak insults, rude and demeaning words; your spouse will struggle to find you sexy

6. THERE IS ANOTHER PERSON

Maybe your spouse is distracted sexually and/or emotionally by another person, if that person takes care of your spouse’s emotional and/or sexual needs; he/she will come to you full, with little or no desire for you

7. YOU BARELY CREATE TIME

If you barely create time to connect with your spouse but then you want to come to your spouse later in the day horny; you will not get some

8. YOU DON’T ENGAGE IN FOREPLAY

If you don’t know how to arouse and prepare your spouse for love making through romancing, touching, licking, grabbing and rubbing then your spouse will not look forward to your touch

9. YOU ARE BORING

If you come off as disinterested, aloof, passive, focusing on one style only, rigid, judgmental and cautious; your spouse will yawn to sleep when sex is the topic

10. YOU SMELL

If you stink, you smell of sweat, you don’t wash well, you don’t brush your teeth; your spouse will sexually avoid you

11. YOUR SPOUSE PREFERS MASTURBATION MORE

Perhaps your spouse is hooked to self-pleasure and regardless of how sexy you are, he/she prefers touching self. Your competition is his/her hands/toys

12. UNRESOLVED ISSUES

Conflicts in marriage left unabated can cause a rift in intimacy

13. YOU ARE SELFISH

If love making is all about you getting pleasure but not giving pleasure, your spouse will not fancy being with you sexually

14. YOU TWO HAVE RAN OUT OF LOVE

Once love is gone; so does intimacy

15. CONTRACEPTIVES

Maybe your spouse is using family planning methods affecting the hormones and libido

16. STRESS

Perhaps your spouse is worried about something; his/her health, work, parents, the children, finances, mid-life crisis… it has nothing to do with you

17. AGE

Or maybe your spouse is advancing in age and is starting to crave less of sexual orgasms and more of genuine companionship